Keeping yourself focused on the most important things in life can be a difficult job when you’re trying to balance work, family responsibilities, and your personal life all at the same time. There may be times when you want instant rewards for your hard work, and when they don’t happen as expected, you feel like the world has conspired against you.
But the truth is that you’re not important enough for the cosmic forces to get in your way. Sometimes you don’t get the rewards you want and deserve simply because there’s something better in store for you, if only you wait a little longer.
The Kid at the Grocery
The scientific evidence in support of self-control has been established fairly recently, dating back to the marshmallow experiments of the psychologist Walter Mischel in the 1970s. But common knowledge about the power of self-control goes way beyond that. Everyday experiences teach us the importance of self-control and what it can do for our character.
Growing up in our families, our parents and other elders constantly teach us how to curb our appetites for various things like food, toys, TV and games. We don’t always get what we want because it’s bad for us, although we’re not always aware of this fact.
How many times have you seen a mother and child pair in the grocery arguing about a particular product that the latter wants to include in the shopping cart but the former doesn’t want? More often than not, the parent is trying hard to reason with the kid and convince him to put the cookie tin back on the shelf.
But the kid’s judgment (what little of it he has developed at his age) is clouded by his desire for the thing, so he does everything he can to get it to force his mother to buy it for him. He doesn’t know any better. He wants his cookie, and he wants it now. In the end, the mother can just give in and buy the cookies, but that’s not a good way to teach the child self-control.
Do you also feel like throwing tantrum when you don’t get want you want? Some of us do on a regular basis. However, as a mature and self-aware adult, it’s important for you to exercise a little more self-control.
Growing up in our families, our parents and other elders constantly teach us how to curb our appetites for various things like food, toys, TV and games.
Wait It Out
There are many instances in life when your patience is tested. During these moments, you feel like every minutes stretches to forever. Young adults sit through their classes, boring or not, in order to finish their degree. They memorize words and sounds to master a new language. They take time to learn steps and instructions to learn a dance routine and perform it flawlessly.
All these activities require patience and fortitude in order to be finished, and unless you hold out until the end, you’re never going to see the results you wanted in the first place. To master your self-control and build your character for the better, here are three easy tips you can follow:
Stay calm when deciding about important matters. The easiest way to make a bad decision is to panic and act impulsively. Self-control is all about putting a lid on your runaway thoughts, especially during crucial moments. If you let panic or fear into your mind, you cannot make objective decisions.
Keep your emotions out of the way because they will only cloud your good judgment, leading you to make poor choices.
When faced with a choice, ask yourself: “What is the best thing for me in the long run?” People who never learn to rein in their appetites usually make decisions based on present circumstances only, forgetting the fact that whatever they do now will have an impact on future happenings.
Do you really need this expensive designer bag that costs as much as your pay check this month? Will you have enough cash left over to pay for your other expenses such as food, rent and utilities? If you think that buying the bag will now ruin your budget, then you should not make the purchase.